Humanistic psychologists focus on the role of conditions of worth in explaining behaviour. People very often believe that they will only be loved and valued if they meet certain conditions of worth (e.g. being good, passing exams). These conditions of worth can create incongruity between the real self (how the person is) and the ideal self (how they think they should be). The person is motivated to close the gap between the real and ideal self but may do this in ways that make them unhappy. For example, they may choose a career or university course to make their parents happy.